How Your Social Media Is Hurting Your Dating Life
Social media is a fun and easily accessible way to keep up with friends and let them know what's going on in your life. However, what you post is also available to all of your potential love interests to browse.
While it may seem shallow to base dating decisions on people's online presence, most of us will go through someone's social media to get a sense of them if we're interested. Here are some ways that your online posts might be damaging your romantic life.
You Still Have Photos Of Your Ex On Your Profile
Keeping a lot of photos with your ex, especially if they aren't too old, makes it seem like you're still in a relationship to outsiders who might have been interested in you.
You Over-Document Your Life In Posts
If you post about every little thing that happens in your life despite it having no specific importance to anyone else, potential love interests might think you're narcissistic. No one needs to know you ate toast for breakfast.
You Follow And Like Photos From A Lot Of Instagram Models
This one is especially for the men. When women see that a guy only seems to like revealing photos from Instagram models, it can be really unattractive and make girls think that you only care about looks.
You Bash Your Ex Online
Airing out your dirty laundry online can make you seem really immature, especially if you're making fun of your ex for their appearance. Most people don't want to date someone who they think will treat them poorly after the breakup.
You're Posting A Lot Of Thirst Traps
Listen: there is nothing wrong with posting a thirst trap and showcasing how hot you are. However, if you post a lot of them, romantic prospects might think that you're not looking for a relationship or that you're too focused on the physical.
You Seem To Only Hit One Note
Social media is a lot like real life where, if you only talk about one interest all the time, people who stalk your profiles might think that you're one-dimensional and have a boring personality.
You're Constantly Fishing For Compliments
If you caption photos or frequently post statuses talking about how ugly you are or how much you dislike yourself, you seem like you're insecure and constantly looking for online validation, which could deter people who were interested in you.
WTF? (Where's The Face?)
People are often deterred from liking you if you only post photos with your body or with your face covered up. It can make you seem like you're very insecure about your looks or make them think that your face secretly looks like Shrek.
You Flex Too Much
We all understand that social media is a highlight reel, but if you're only posting to show off your accomplishments, material objects, and lavish lifestyle, you can seem conceited and arrogant to onlookers.
You Untag Yourself From A Lot Of Other People's Photos
Untagging yourself from photos that your friends and family post due to your professional connections online is totally fine, but if you untag yourself from all of your friends' photos because you're afraid you look ugly, you seem like you might be a catfish.
You Only Post Selfies
Not only can selfies make you seem like you spend your time being obsessed with your own face, but it can also seem like you spend all your time alone and don't have any friends.
You Are Constantly Posting
If you're constantly posting photos, it might seem like you're more invested in your online life than the one you live off-screen, which can be a turnoff to someone who's trying to make a genuine connection with you.
You Edit Your Photos Too Much
Just about all of use have used editing tools before to make a photo brighter or remove a pimple, but overdoing it to the point where your face and body look totally different in real life can really turn off romantic interests.
You Don't Post Often Enough
If your only available photos are horrible blurry nightmares from 2015, it's harder to learn about you and might actually dissuade some people from wanting to get to know you. Stop reverse catfishing!
You Change Your Relationship Status Frequently
If you're constantly changing your relationship status on social media, it can make viewers think that you're not capable of staying in a long-term relationship or like to overdramatize your life rather than work through your relationship issues privately.
You Put Everything On Your Story
If you're constantly posting stories on Instagram, Snapchat, or Facebook, it can seem like you're trying too hard to make your life look interesting, having the adverse effect that future potential romantic partners think you're trying too hard to get attention.
You Overshare Online
It's really fun to share your life with people online, but there should be some things that you keep to your inner circle of friends that not everyone should know. People might avoid dating you because they don't want to have their entire relationship publicized.
Your Snap Score Is Really High
If your Snapchat score is really high, people who are interested in you romantically might think that you're talking to a lot of different people or are focused on superficial or physical attributes rather than personality.
You Obsess Over Your Follower Numbers
Unless you're a famous influencer whose entire living and career are based on your Instagram posts and endorsements, caring about how many followers you have in comparison to how many people you're following can make you seem extremely immature and shallow.
Guys, Please Just Stop Posting Photos Of You Holding Dead Fish
Dear men, while women will accept one or two photos of you on a fishing trip, they don't want pictures of you holding dead animals to dominate your profile. Please, just post a picture of you hanging out with friends.
