Psychological Tricks To Con Your Crush Into Falling In Love With You
It's one thing to have a crush, and it's another thing entirely for them to like you back. Nobody said that the art of attraction was easy, and I personally know that it can be a struggle to get the right person to want you.
All is fair in love and war, and there's nothing wrong with using a little bit of science to make your love life work out a little bit smoother. Here are some proven psychological tricks that can help you get your crush to like you.
Destiny's Child Brought Up Some Points With "Say My Name"
Studies show that hearing your own name has an effect on your brain because we involuntarily respond to the sound of our names. It in many ways acts as a minor ego boost and contributes to positive feelings toward the speaker.
Tell Him How Great He Is Via Little Compliments
People love to be told that people like things about them, and your crush is no exception. Drop little compliments towards him every once in a while, but not too frequently—that can make them lose meaning or seem insincere.
Monkey See, Monkey Do
One of the simplest and most common ways people show connection is by subtly copying their gestures—keyword being "subtly". Psychologists have noticed that people bond better when they are displaying similar physical behaviors, like sitting posture or hand movements.
Pick Your Outfits Accordingly
Colors have been psychologically proven to have a strong effect on our moods, and you can use this as an advantage. Wear red, the color of desire and excitement, if you're trying to reel him in. If he's stressed, wear cool blue or green tones, which elicit feelings of calmness.
Do A "Dangerous" Activity Together
There's a concept called the "misattribution of arousal" in which people can think that they're aroused by a person if they're in a dangerous or fear-inducing situation. Take him on a rollercoaster if he's scared of heights, and it will make him find you more attractive.
Have Great Expectations, Dickens-Style
The Pymalion Effect in psychology dictates that we tend to mold ourselves to others' expectations of us. If you expect a guy to be kind and good, he will try to act in a way that matches those expectations.
Highlight Your Similarities To Each Other
Psychological Similar/Attraction Theory states that people tend to love or associate with people who share similar values, hobbies, and backgrounds as them. By focusing on the things you have in common, he's more likely to want to be around you.
Get Him To Talk About Himself
Even if you aren't a full-blown narcissist, you like to talk about yourself—it's human nature. Ask him questions about himself and his interests and intently listen: he'll like you more as he talks about his favorite things and topics.
Reaffirm His Tough Decisions
In psychology, "cognitive dissonance" is the discomfort we feel after we choose one thing over another (especially if they're close in value). Playing a game like "would you rather" and agreeing with his choices will make him like you as you help validate his decisions and ease his discomfort.
Don't Be Too Available
Prescribe the notion of "value" to your time by showing the other things you have going on, having a life of your own, and not always being available to him. When scheduling, sometimes say you're busy (but make it clear that you would like to choose a time that works).
Hold Eye Contact A Little Extra-Long
Studies prove that prolonged eye contact increases the likelihood that two people will fall in love, the two main factors being that the other person is attractive and the perception that they're interested in you.
Ask Him For Favors
Called the "Ben Franklin Effect", we subconsciously make ourselves believe that people would do the same for us as we do for them. If he does a favor for you, he assumes you'd return it and in turn likes you more.
Show A Lot Of Empathy
Similarly to the last phenomenon, showing a lot of empathy for the people around you can make him think that you would understand him. Showing your ability to empathize allows him to infer you'd do the same for him.
Pavlov's Dog Him Into Liking You
If you repetitively act really excited to see someone, they tend to reciprocate and they'll subconsciously start to associate seeing you with feelings of excitement due to the psychological process of classical conditioning!
In Sight, In Mind
If you want someone to like you more, literally be close to them. The more we see someone, the more we tend to like them, so try to be at places you know he's going to be, or post on social media so that he sees you more often!
Be The Funny Gal You Know You Are
The Humor Effect is a psychological phenomenon that causes people to remember things better and more positively when it's presented in a humorous manner! Just by cracking a few jokes, you become more likable to him!
Timing Is Your Friend
As humans, we tend to fixate on the beginning or the end of things, so by strategically timing your hangouts to be the first or last thing in their day, your time together becomes much more memorable to him.
Turn Him Into A Bandwagoner (For Team You!)
The Bandwagon Effect is a psychological phenomenon that causes us as humans to more easily accept an opinion other people share. Therefore, if you spread the idea that you're a hottie and a catch, he's more likely to believe it too!
Treat Every Crush The Way You Would A New Acquaintance
This is a trick for you! You might be super into them and invested, but approaching someone who doesn't know that can be hard. Treat your crush like an acquaintance when it comes to your expectations for response times so you keep your cool.
Walk Away And Use Cognitive Dissonance In Your Favor Again
If he doesn't seem to reciprocate after you've made your interest in him clear, walk away from him. If he sees you living and having fun without him, he might start to feel discomfort with his decision and change his mind.
